has really surprised me is the current, in-depth article "Tatort home" by Caroline Fetscher which appeared in TIME and also in Tagesspiegel . Such kind of articles are what our society needs to move and to raise awareness about things! I think that in future we can expect more in this direction. Younger writers such as the above named are spreading in the media landscape. This new generation is very different to deal with the topic than previous generations. We can look forward to further development.
Highlight I would like that was in the article on the Swedish Ellen Key ("Century of the Child") and also to Lloyd de Mause and his "Evolution of childhood" made in some detail. The possible political effects of violence against children was at least mentioned in one sentence: "(...) intimidation, guilt and violence dominated climate in the early 20th Century that German children grew up, which later made possible perpetrators of hangers-fascism. "
was particularly interesting to me also the following passage:" no question that enormous residual effect of all past eras until today and on. Striking open violence overwinters in the language we use. Violent metaphors are used every day and worry: People at Maischberger asks, "Why are we beating up black-yellow", "bleed must be" of taxpayers, the government "plans cruelty," a politician "is abgewatscht. Night after night, television served fights, shootings, rapes, robbery and murder. Violence is omnipresent. Overcome the notion that acting out conflicts through violence is still a long way "This is something that even tries to set out the psycho-historical research with its fantasy analysis of media, political speeches and cartoons. How does the child-rearing practices (covered) back in words and images in the media?
important, I also found the reference to psychological violence, it is unfortunately too rarely noted. "Countless children hear every day devaluing, discouraging, shouting, unkind messages. "You make me sick", "you're stupid," "always, you are in the way", "go out of my eyes," "with you is what to do," since you're in the world, there is nothing but trouble "- the litany is endless. Anyone who grows up as a child with the hail, way neither self nor protection. This is the humiliation that is mentioned in the law on non-violent upbringing as well. Mental Violence. But "humiliation" - that the diagnosis not made, regrets the pediatrician winter. The children, however, who like house plants have no choice to decide where they live, nothing remains as to take the poisoned water from the watering can at home in himself. I must confess - - "
informative and for me not really new because I have heard such statements too often, I also found some comments from the readers. Here you can find include the "identification with the aggressor " again. Particularly alarming, but unfortunately reality and highly effective, is the "gratitude" for strikes and "insight" of the defeated.
In Tagesspiegel:
" A certain punishment had not harmed me, but spared major damage, and also taught a little obedience. "
" my god, what a sozialarbeitergewinsel. a slap is no physical abuse. a kind of great junk to hold if all the words ever so good and strong arguments to be nothing, you can also take a slap on the finger type. "
In Time:
" from personal experience during my own childhood, I know that the presence of physical violence in the general case harmful to a child must be. (...) But when I and my brother have built really shitty times, there was quite a punishment slaps on the ass. Yes, the hurt already, even if we eventually realized that they were not so bad (the psychological effect was quite large). But I've never felt this as abuse, but as quite justified punishment. (...) I would be interested personally really know if everyone here believes that education must always be violent. I honestly do not see so -. There are only just different forms of violence "
" children need boundaries, boundary violations require consequences. Consequences need to do to the child in any way "hurt", otherwise it is not. A direct "slap" on the bottom is sometimes the best solution for both sides. "
" , the pat on the back of the head to be an effective way to set limits children. Violence is the child here in the strict sense does not happen. "Same readers elsewhere". did I even get by 10 blows in a row as a 12-year-old that was owed a power struggle, I've never nachgetragen the educator, on the contrary, because I understood why this happened, I have I eventually bent and considered the matter as necessary. To this day I am the educator (boarding) grateful, not because of the slaps, which constituted an exception. But they belonged to it. "
" With a "slap" on the ass I can still talk to me. A blow to the back of the head is an entirely different dimension . "
" to a child after warnings remain totally misbehaves, a runterzuhauen, I find justified. Otherwise it happens as an adult, and it's worse. We have practiced this for our now grown children (less than 1 per year and never lose 6 or 7) and they are grateful to us for that. "
" addition, physical Means of education (which indeed is one example, detention) are more suitable for younger children (...) Finally, why should I punish anyone, unless I had wantonly provoked. And I have provoked you and very conscious of the limits tested. The penalty I have taken willfully accepted. My grandmother once told me there would be a slap for every minute I'm late (admittedly exaggerated). I was on time at home, but I waited 3 minutes before the door, just to see if it runs through. Has them. But I am still proud that I've tried it and its not bad. I would avoid the penalty yes, if I had wanted. "
" fact slaps are also a type of donation, worth even positive if it is the only one. In Beggars can not be choosers. "
a comment the other way, I would like to conclude also quote:". If a blow is not physical violence, then that would indeed extend to each and every every slap may And you certainly would not mind if I make use of it if we meet once should "
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